Why do you do it? Part 1: The Power of "Why"

 The Power of "Why"

            In the bustling world of language education, where the cacophony of grammar rules and vocabulary lists often takes precedence, there lies a fundamental question that is frequently overlooked: "Why do you do it?" This question, deceptively simple in its construction, holds the key to unlocking not just the motivation behind our actions but also the deeper connections we forge with our passions, our work, and ultimately, ourselves.

            As a teacher of English and a university lecturer, I have spent countless hours pondering over the intricacies of language and communication. My journey began years ago, driven by a desire to bridge gaps and build bridges between cultures through the power of language. Yet, as I stand in front of my students, whether they are eager young children or contemplative adults, I am often reminded of the importance of asking myself, "Why do you do it?"

            This question, inspired by the insightful writings of Meik Wiking, challenges us to look beyond the surface of our daily routines and delve into the core of our motivations. Wiking suggests that instead of the conventional "What do you do?" we should ask "Why do you do it?" This shift in perspective not only reframes our understanding of work but also transforms our approach to life itself. It encourages us to seek meaning and purpose in our actions, rather than merely focusing on the tasks at hand.

            In my boutique English school, English with Maria, nestled in the charming town of Wołomin, this question has become a guiding principle. With a dedicated team of five teachers and a community of approximately 100 students, ranging from children to adults, we strive to create an environment where the "why" is as important as the "what." Our mission goes beyond teaching English; it is about instilling a love for learning, fostering curiosity, and empowering our students to explore the world with confidence.

            Each Sunday, as I prepare to publish my weekly book Espresso series—short reflections on the books I read—I am reminded of the profound impact that stories and narratives have on shaping our understanding of the world. Books, much like languages, are vessels of culture and knowledge, offering us a glimpse into the diverse tapestry of human experience. Through these reflections, I hope to inspire my readers to ask themselves, "Why do you do it?" and to discover the stories that resonate with their own journeys.

            The power of "why" lies not only in its ability to inspire introspection but also in its potential to foster empathy and connection. When we ask "why," we invite others to share their stories, their dreams, and their struggles. We create a space for dialogue and understanding, where each person's journey is valued and respected. In a classroom setting, this approach transforms the learning experience from a transactional exchange of information to a collaborative exploration of ideas and perspectives.

            As educators, it is our responsibility to nurture this sense of inquiry and curiosity in our students. By encouraging them to ask "why," we empower them to become critical thinkers and lifelong learners. We teach them that learning is not just about acquiring knowledge but about questioning the world around them and seeking answers that are meaningful and relevant to their lives.

            In the context of language learning, the question "Why do you do it?" takes on a special significance. Language is not just a tool for communication; it is a gateway to understanding and connecting with others. By exploring the reasons behind our desire to learn a language, we uncover the motivations that drive us to embrace new cultures and perspectives. Whether it is the desire to travel, to connect with family, or to advance in one's career, understanding the "why" enriches the learning experience and makes it more purposeful.

            For parents of young children, asking "why" can be a powerful way to engage with their child's education. By understanding the motivations behind their child's interests and activities, parents can better support their learning journey and foster a love for discovery. In my school, we encourage parents to be active participants in their child's education, to ask questions, and to explore the "why" together with their children.

            For adults, the question "Why do you do it?" can serve as a catalyst for personal and professional growth. It prompts us to reflect on our goals and aspirations, to assess whether our actions align with our values, and to make informed decisions about our future. In the fast-paced world we live in, taking the time to ask "why" can provide clarity and direction, helping us to navigate the complexities of modern life with purpose and intention.

            As we embark on this exploration of "why," I invite you to join me in this journey of self-discovery and reflection. Together, we will delve into the stories and experiences that shape our understanding of work, learning, and life. We will uncover the motivations that drive us to pursue our passions and the connections that bind us to our communities. Through this exploration, we will find meaning and purpose in the everyday actions that define who we are and what we do.

            In the following entries of this blog post, we will explore the various dimensions of the question "Why do you do it?" We will examine the role of motivation in education, the importance of fostering curiosity and creativity, and the impact of meaningful work on our well-being. We will also consider the ways in which asking "why" can enhance our relationships, both personal and professional, and how it can lead to a more fulfilling and enriched life.

            As we continue this journey, I encourage you to reflect on your own experiences and to ask yourself, "Why do you do it?" What drives you to pursue your passions? What inspires you to learn and grow? How does your work contribute to your sense of purpose and fulfilment? By engaging with these questions, we can uncover the deeper motivations that guide our actions and find greater meaning in the paths we choose to follow.

            In conclusion, the power of "why" lies in its ability to transform our understanding of ourselves and the world around us. It challenges us to look beyond the surface, to seek meaning in our actions, and to connect with others in meaningful ways. As we embark on this exploration of "why," let us embrace the opportunity to discover new perspectives, to learn from one another, and to find purpose in the work we do. Together, we can create a world where the question "Why do you do it?" is not just a curiosity, but a guiding principle that shapes our lives and our communities.

        

Happiness At Work

 Those who are Polish surely know this scene:

BUT THIS STORY IS DIFFERENT....

I first stumbled upon Meik Wiking quite a while ago, casually adding a couple of his books to my ever-growing “to-read” list (which, I must admit, is getting slightly out of hand). It was only recently, however, that I finally got round to sitting down with The Art of Danish Living: How to Find Happiness In and Out of Work. And once I did, I found it rather difficult to put down.

What struck me almost immediately was a small yet thought-provoking detail: in Nordic cultures, people often wish each other “good work” or express a genuine hope that the other person will feel motivated and fulfilled in what they do. It’s such a simple idea, yet it stopped me in my tracks. It got me wondering—what about us? What do we actually say to one another before heading off to work? And perhaps more importantly, what do we really mean by it?

Curiosity got the better of me, so I decided to carry out a tiny, thoroughly unscientific (and admittedly biased) survey among friends and acquaintances. I cast the net a bit wider than just Poland, reaching out to people living and working in different countries. I asked a straightforward question: what, if anything, do you wish each other before work? And—here’s the interesting bit—does the reply carry even a hint of irony?

The answers were, to say the least, revealing.

Among my fellow teachers, the go-to phrase is usually “Have fun.” Now, before you jump to conclusions, it’s not that we don’t take our work seriously or spend our days simply messing about. Far from it. Beneath that seemingly light-hearted wish lies something far more meaningful. When we say “Have fun,” we are really hoping for engaged students, lively discussions, moments of genuine connection—those instances when a lesson takes on a life of its own. That’s where the real joy kicks in.

And believe me, as someone who works with both adults and children, I can say without batting an eyelid that truly eye-opening conversations can happen even with four-year-olds. Yes, four. They have a knack for cutting straight to the heart of things, often catching you off guard. So you’d better stay on your toes.

Then there’s another group—let’s call them “the office crowd.” Interestingly, their responses seem to follow a similar pattern regardless of where they are based: Poland, Bulgaria, Sweden, Germany, Austria, Italy, Greece, Turkey—you name it. They are, in a way, a hard nut to crack. On the surface, many of them claim to enjoy their jobs and feel a sense of belonging within their organisations. And yet, when it comes down to it, work is still… well, work.

When greeted with a cheerful “Have a good day,” the reply is often tinged with a touch of resignation: “Well, at least the weekend is coming,” or “Thursday is the new Friday.” It’s all said half-jokingly, of course, but there’s often a grain of truth in it. The subtext is clear—people are counting down the days.

And so, it seems that for many, life is measured in relation to the weekend: how far away it is, or how quickly it is slipping through our fingers.

If I’m being completely honest, I’m not entirely sure what your weekends look like, but mine tend to pass in the blink of an eye. One minute it’s Saturday morning, full of promise, and the next it’s Sunday evening, and you’re wondering where on earth the time has gone. The slightly sobering reality is that they’re usually filled with perfectly ordinary “adulting”: shopping, cleaning, cooking, ferrying children to their extracurricular activities, squeezing in a quick catch-up with friends, and—every now and then—perhaps a bit of entertainment if time allows.

Which brings me back to a Danish word that doesn’t quite have an equivalent in English: arbejdsglæde—the joy of work. A concept so simple, yet so elusive.

So why is it that the Danes consistently rank among the most satisfied when it comes to their working lives? Is it a matter of mindset, culture, work-life balance—or something else entirely?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Do you look forward to your work, or are you counting down the days until Friday? What do you wish others before they start their working day—and what do you really mean by it?

Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below.